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  • As she watches her daughter struggle to care for everyone from nine to 90, Phyllis makes a radical decision to move into assisted living.

    As she watches her daughter struggle to care for everyone from nine to 90, Phyllis makes a radical decision to move into assisted living.

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  • Phyllis and Joe, married 62 years, across the table

    Phyllis and Joe, married 62 years, across the table

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  • Phyllis smiles at grandaughter Juli

    Phyllis smiles at grandaughter Juli

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  • Joe kisses wife Phyllis, she smiles

    Joe kisses wife Phyllis, she smiles

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  • The family meets to consider the news of Joe's kidney failure

    The family meets to consider the news of Joe's kidney failure

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  • Jacqueline and her grandfather Joe

    Jacqueline and her grandfather Joe

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  • Phyllis asks her daughter Angie about Phyllis' husband Joe's new health problem

    Phyllis asks her daughter Angie about Phyllis' husband Joe's new health problem

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  • Director Alicia Dwyer

    Director Alicia Dwyer

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  • Producer Juli Vizza

    Producer Juli Vizza

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The Film

Every morning after taking a long list of medications, 89-year-old Phyllis Sabatini does her calisthenics and goes on a long walk around the Palm Desert neighborhood where she lives with her husband, daughter, and granddaughter. “Grandmom” may only be 4’ 7,’’ but she still stands tall as the head of a close-knit Italian American family struggling to come to terms with the declining health of its aging parents.

Phyllis is facing her last chapter with courage and determination, but her 90-year-old husband Joe seems to have given up; he’s detached and prefers to sleep most of the day. Phyllis loves her family. She especially relishes the time she spends with her granddaughter, Jacqueline. But she sees how much strain taking care of her and Joe is putting on their family.

As she watches her daughter struggle to care for everyone from nine to 90, Phyllis makes a radical decision to move into assisted living. Phyllis Sabatini realizes that leaving home is difficult at any age, but she learns that sometimes, the best way to say “I love you” is to say “goodbye.”

The Filmmakers

  1. Juli VizzaProducer
  2. Alicia DwyerDirector
  3. Michael DwyerCo-producer