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  • Rose Mapendo struggles to find balance as a mother and full-time advocate for refugees.

    Rose Mapendo struggles to find balance as a mother and full-time advocate for refugees.

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  • Rose is reunited with her daughter, Nangabire, after a decade of apart.

    Rose is reunited with her daughter, Nangabire, after a decade of apart.

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  • Rose implores a group of Congolese women to take charge of their lives and communities.

    Rose implores a group of Congolese women to take charge of their lives and communities.

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  • Rose's oldest daughter, Aimee, may have paid the highest price during the civil war.

    Rose's oldest daughter, Aimee, may have paid the highest price during the civil war.

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  • Rose and Nangabire reunite for the first time.

    Rose and Nangabire reunite for the first time.

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  • Rose looks home.

    Rose looks home.

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  • Nangabire in school

    Nangabire in school

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  • Rose and Nangabire are photographed for the 2009 UNHCR Humanitarian of the Year Awards.

    Rose and Nangabire are photographed for the 2009 UNHCR Humanitarian of the Year Awards.

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  • Rose mourns lost lives at the Gatumba Memorial, Gatumba, Buruni.

    Rose mourns lost lives at the Gatumba Memorial, Gatumba, Buruni.

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  • Rose lends a "head" to help Phoenix-based refugees.

    Rose lends a "head" to help Phoenix-based refugees.

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  • Rose consoles refugees living in Nairobi, Kenya.

    Rose consoles refugees living in Nairobi, Kenya.

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The Film

In the late 1990s, Rose Mapendo was imprisoned with her family during violence that engulfed the Democratic Republic of Congo. Her harrowing experience included the nighttime arrest of her entire family by government agents, the execution of her husband, the birth of their twin sons in prison, and grim negotiations with prison guards to save the lives of her children. She emerged from the harrowing experience advocating forgiveness and reconciliation. In a country where ethnic violence has created seemingly irreparable rifts among Tutsis, Hutus, and other Congolese, this remarkable woman is a vital voice in her beleaguered nation’s search for peace. Now, Rose is confronted with teaching one of her most recalcitrant students how to forgive — Nangabire, the daughter who remained behind.

When war came to Rose’s village, she was separated from Nangabire, who was 4 years old at the time. Rose managed to escape with nine of her 10 children and was eventually resettled in Phoenix, Arizona. More than a decade later, Rose and Nangabire are reunited in Phoenix where they must face the past and build a new future.

Rose struggles to find balance in her life as a mother of 10 and a full-time advocate for refugees, women, and peace in her country. Her speaking engagements take her around the world — from the White House and the United Nations High Commissioner for Refugees in Geneva, to meetings with displaced women in Congo. Meanwhile Nangabire, now 17, must adapt to America and discover how she fits into the sprawling Mapendo family. As they get to know one another, the mother and daughter must come to terms with a painful past, and define what it means to be a survivor, a woman, a refugee, and an American.

This family portrait unfolds against the wider drama of war, and explores the long-term and often hidden effects of war on women and families, particularly those in traditional societies — financial despair, increased susceptibility to rape, and social ostracism. We also explore what it means to become an active advocate for a peaceful and hopeful future.

The Filmmakers

  1. Beth DavenportDirector
  2. Elizabeth MandelDirector
  3. Angela TuckerProducer
  4. Katy ChevignyProducer